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Someone please tell me how I can make myself stop thinking about my ex. I’ve found that I’ve gone from “hating” him to completely and utterly missing his company.

June 5, 2012 11:53 pm

He is my first love. And I think I still love him deep down, despite how I try to act ilike I don’t care about him. It’s distracting and I just want to feel indifferent about him.

I thought I had moved on, but I now know I definitely haven’t. We were only in a relationship for a year and a few months and we ended things about four months ago.

I don’t want to come across as one of those “stupidly in love” 18/19 year old girls. Because I think I genuinely did/do love him. But that we are not right together at this moment in time.

There is no point in me thinking about him like I do. :( I don’t know if I should talk to him either…we haven’t spoken for about two months or more because I was so upset about him ending things that I couldn’t face speaking to him and tried to just cut him out of my life. I went as far as deleting his number and as a ”friend” on Facebook, because I know that if I see something about him with someone else, I won’t be able to take it.

I have no idea how he feels about me. It’s a long story in that sense…

It hasn’t worked… I find myself seeing things, laughing knowing that he’d find it funny too and then realising that we don’t speak anymore…

Overall, I just want my friend back despite how badly things ended and how ridiculously he acted/treated me towards the end of our relationship. :/

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Met the girlfriend of the guy who I drunkenly and stupidly got “involved with” the night after my boyfriend ended things at an event today. She seems really sweet and nice, quite cute. I find it disgusting that he hasn’t told her that he cheated on her.

March 15, 2012 10:55 pm

Their relationship is none of my business, but it pains me to know that he hasn’t told her that he was unfaithful. It’s just strange to me that you can lie to someone like that…and the weird thing is is that his best friend told me that despite the cheating, he is “secretly in love with her.”

If you love someone…why would you cheat on them? I don’t understand.

This guy was my “rebound crush” after my long-term boyfriend broke up with me (short infatuation lasting only a few weeks). We went to the pub the night after things ended and my friends tried to cheer me up, so we all ended up drinking quite a bit. This guy kept coming onto me and consoling me about my break-up as I was very, very upset.

And despite the fact that I knew he was taken, I eventually let things happen because I enjoyed the attention and wanted someone to hold onto because I was really hurt. And he took advantage of that and we ended up touching, kissing and then eventually in his room, him undressing me.

I stopped things before they could get any further, really upset about my actions (I absolutely loathe cheaters/homewreckers) and the break-up emotions overwhelming me and I left his room, breaking down only when I got to my own dorm room.

It’s kind of disgusting that he hasn’t told her, but there is nothing I can do. It’s just made me feel a little weirded out seeing as I’ve actually met her face to face and she’s oblivious to what happened between us.

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My boyfriend and I are no longer together as of today…part of me is upset, disappointed perhaps and sad. The other part is relieved as I’ve finally realised that I do deserve better. Someone who truly knows that he means it when he says “I love you.” and doesn’t make empty promises and treats me properly. I need a man, not a boy.

January 27, 2012 2:26 am

A real gentleman knows that it takes what won her, to keep her.

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I found out today that my boyfriend might be moving to the other side of the world (Australia) this year. I’m happy for him, finding something he really wants to do, and being able to have this opportunity, I really am. But at the same time, I’m torn apart inside.

January 26, 2012 3:51 am

He said more than once before that he finds me living at university two hours away hard enough…so, what is this going to be like…?

I am so, so upset at the thought of him being in a country whose time difference is about 11 hours ahead of England and a 24 hour flight away… on the other side of the world. :’( And yeah, he says only two years, but I feel he’ll probably decide to stay out there.

I don’t want to rain on his parade, because when I told him that I may be moving to America to study at Berklee College of Music last year (I turned the place down) he was so excited and happy for me and urged me to go without even showing one hint of the worries he had deep down.

He is so excited about this and telling me all about it in this hyper voice, sending me links and stuff. He phoned me today saying he had such good news…but this just shocked me, it came out of no where. I know he wanted to move abroad eventually, like I do, but I didn’t think it would be this soon. He and his mother said that they would love to ask me to move with him, but they know I’m still at university for the next four years so that’s out of the question.

I am happy for him and I want him to take this opportunity, but I find it hard to project simply happiness and my excitement for him because it’s outweighed by my worries and sadness and I feel so selfish being so upset, but I honestly can’t help it. It hasn’t even happened yet, but I just feel that I don’t know what to do to get rid of my pessimism.

We both want to carry on the relationship obviously, when he moves, the thought of ending it hasn’t even crossed our minds lol, but it’s just scary. It’s a lot different then living a two hour train journey away…

Feel free to give me some advice or something :(

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